People judge how happy and successful you are based on how much you have earned and what your social status is. But this is relative. As I’ve seen in my short life, anyone can earn money. But not many can earn money in an ethical manner devoid of bribery and nefarious activities.
My parents and their parents were very stringent when it came to ethics, values and morals. Anything that went against such were frowned upon. I believe these ethics, values and morals rubbed off on me too. It was not easy growing up with such draconian ways of living but they have certainly helped me become what I am today.
I’ve listed down 8 things I’m proud of. All of which can find certain roots in my personality and how I’ve been brought up.
● No Debts. Being frugal is a real difficult philosophy to embrace. Now more than ever we are accosted by capitalism and commercialization. Everywhere we go all we see are brands aggressively advertising. Most people I know end up spending their hard earned money on stuff they don’t need. My parents brought me up on frugal habits. They enforced it very strictly. I never got whatever I wanted. I only started purchasing whatever I wanted when I started working. I busted my very first salary. Ever since then, I always made it a point to save. And this decision has worked very well. I’ll never give this philosophy up. The worst thing that can happen is being broke and begging for money from people.
● All Loans Paid. I’m governed by certain set of ethics and values. I can’t give those up. There have been a few rare instances where I was compelled to borrow small amounts of money. These instances were like when I was stuck at work till late with no money for transport etc. But, unlike most people I know, I’ve always paid back every single cent.
● Career Opportunities. In an age when people rely on contacts whether they are from school, parents, relations, societies, friends or their church/temple/mosque, I’m proud to say, every single job I had was won through my own hard work. None of it was handed to me on a silver platter. I started off as an Intern in a bank and I reached my zenith as the Head of a Creative Department in an ad agency. I went through 8 or so careers and worked hard at each job I got.
● Parents Come First. I know most of the time I’ve always put my parents first. Like in any family, we’ve had fights. I guess we will have many more to come. But I know in my heart I’ve done far more than and sacrificed far more than most kids when it comes to looking after my parents. I know they have done a lot for me too. This is why I’m loyal besides doing my duty. At the end of the day, they are the only ones who will be there for you.
● Friends And Loyalty. I choose my friends very carefully. Having lived for over 30 years, I’m suspicious of people and I’ve developed this uncanny habit of knowing what people are after. While I’m a very friendly person in general, I choose who I want to socialize with very carefully. And once I do open my arms in friendship, I will do whatever I can to be there for you.
● Company Politics Is A No Go. One of the many reasons I’ve never climbed the corporate ladder faster is my refusal to form cliques and start backstabbing others. I’m all about going to work and just coming back home after a hard day at work. I’ve no interest in utilizing other people’s weaknesses for my gain. I’ve no interest in oiling up other people’s viewpoints of me to get raises or promotions. Let the work speak for itself. I got a conscious. Duplicity and being nefarious is not part of my make up.
● Good Manners, Kindness & Compassion. I practice all 3. I can’t begin to state how much I’ve achieved in life by being nice to others. It’s so cool. It’s unbelievably rewarding. I know for a fact I’ve made many people happy by listening to their problems, offering them a helping hand, taking them for a meal, doing charity, being gentlemanly and helping them being confident in themselves. I swear all this positive energy via kindness and compassion has offered me a bounty of blessings.
● Autarky. I love this Greek word. It means – self sufficiency. I remember learning about this particular word when I was studying Classical Civilization. Despite my mother’s best efforts in trying to spoil me, I know, I made it a point to get out of my comfort zone and take on real life. I was brought up on unhealthy doses of fear. I’m still afraid of many things. But I cherish the fact that I have overcome most of my fear and am moulding my future to be fully independent.