25 Reasons To Quit Smoking & Drinking

It always starts with that first drag and that first sip. Before you know it, cigarettes and alcohol become part of whom and what you are. What prevents the guilt, shame and realization of what you are addicted to is largely thanks to your social circles. I mean, the truth is your parents, friends and colleagues all partake in it and this makes it okay. I thought to myself, this is why we hardly speak against religious fanaticism or corruption. It is because there is a majority indulging in it and THIS makes it alright.

But. There is always a big BUT. But there are consequences. And, to be honest, none of these consequences are positive. For a good 15 years I have been socially indulging in both cigarettes and alcohol. Since I do have this uncanny habit of observing things sometimes rather objectively without being too affected, I’ve noticed how both habits have had a detrimental effect on me. I’ve never been a “drunkard” or “chain smoker” in the classic sense but I was certainly heading that way. Now I don’t drink the hard stuff, I just stick to either red wine or beer where I have 2 or 3 glasses once per month. My aim is to quit it all completely. I have identified below 25 reasons why I am making an effort to quit.

  1. It ages you. I had a boss once who was 40 years old but looked 60. My father’s bridge friends all smoke and drink and look ancient like pharaohs. There is no way in hell I want to end up like that.
  2. It makes you poor. You do know that. Besides the fact that cigarette packs and alcohol is going up in price, you are addicted to it. So even if you are broke, you will hunt, steal or kill to feed your addiction.
  3. It will kill you. I want to live as long as I possibly can. I prefer to die in a natural fashion, not with me coughing up blood, my lungs, my kidneys and my liver.
  4. Your family will suffer. Count the number of times you have come home late, reeking of nicotine and alcohol. Count the number of times, you puked and passed out. Count the number of times you have let your parents, spouse and kids down. Is your addiction still worth it?
  5. You are making others rich. Every time you make a purchase, you just become poorer. This goes for any purchase of any product. But cigarettes and alcohol get you hooked. I’ll be damned if any company is going to make a buck off me and enjoys seeing me become a slave to what they sell.
  6. You forget. There have been days I have gone on an alcohol binges and have completely forgotten what I did a few days back. Trust me, this is beyond frightening.
  7. Your behavior is atrocious. I have been to numerous parties where the liquor was flowing. I have got drunk. I have said terrible things to people and, in short, made a fool of myself. And the embarrassment and shame of it will live with you for years.
  8. Your fitness suffers. I used to be a person who woke up at 4 a.m. to jog for 2 hours and then hit the gym for 1 hour. I used to tap dance, be an active participant of Kyokushin karate and practice Kandyan dancing. At the height of my drinking prowess, I could barely walk 1 kilometer. Now I am getting my mojo back. I work out daily for 1 hour and it feels amazing.
  9. Your appearance suffers. You do know that both smoking and drinking does affect your skin’s collagen, right? Well, it does. And, trust me; you will look 40 when you are just 25.
  10. Your testosterone declines. I am now seriously into fitness and gym. My aim is to get back to the athleticism that I enjoyed and reveled in when I was 23. Smoking and drinking affects your testosterone levels and this is anathema if you are into building muscle.
  11. It is addictive. When you are happy or sad, you always reach for a drag or a sip and that is not good. It is, in fact, a curse when all you can think about is smoking and drinking.
  12. You can lose friends/spouse. I lost friends on alcohol-fueled fights. I have lost family members who drank themselves to death. And you know what? It isn’t pretty.
  13. Your work performance suffers. Work is the reason I got into smoking and drinking and my work is what suffered. How did it suffer? I forgot appointments, I put in sick leave, I ignored my responsibilities and I lost my creativity.
  14. It alters your personality. Some people turn into raging bullies and some are riddled with irrational fears and worries. I gravitated between the two. My usual personality and character is one that is fun, cheerful, kind, sincere, generous and loyal. I like this personality and character. I think I’ll keep it.
  15. Your sex drive suffers. The truth is that these two addictions cause erectile dysfunction and they are two of the main reasons for causing infertility in males.
  16. It can lead to obesity. My height is 5 ft, 11 inches. At the zenith of my athletic prowess I was 69 kgs, with a 45” chest and 17.5” biceps. I was a hunk. Period. At the zenith of being a complete loser i.e. smoker and drinker I became 105 kgs with my waist reaching a mammoth 45”. The thing is, smoking and drinking leads to overeating and unhealthy cravings. I am now down to 87 kgs with a waist of 36”. I swear on all things holy, I will get back to my former hunk status the healthy way.
  17. It can lead to cancer and diabetes. I have uncles and aunts who have suffered from cancer and diabetes brought on by alcohol consumption. Both set of grandparents suffered from diabetes and no way am I planning on joining this club. And I know alcohol with its empty calories is something I should avoid.
  18. It can cause depression and anxiety. I remember the anxiety attacks, the lack of confidence, the urge to drink, the awful depression that set in when I was into smoking and drinking. I felt a zombie and I acted like one too.
  19. It can cause insomnia. In general, I am one person who loved sleeping. I still do. But once you are hooked onto these two habits, insomnia is what you have to deal with.
  20. It saps your energy. Ever drank and felt like you are half dead the next day? Bet you have. The fact is, alcohol dehydrates you and it affects your energy levels.
  21. The hangovers are awful. I have mixed drinks and puked so hard, I swear I have prayed to God to make me die. I hate it. I hate it with all of my being. Having gone through this time and time again, I asked myself – Why do you keep on doing this? No more.
  22. Giving up these two addictions means you are sure to give up bad friends. Here is another fact. The majority of people who are complete drunks and who smoke like there is no tomorrow are in debt, are social misfits, womanizers or perverts and half a dozen other adjectives. You don’t need them. Actually you should probably wear some talisman and run away from them. They got no ethics, morals or any integrity. What do you expect? They are addicts.
  23. I want to show the world that I can give it up. The measure of a man is not to give into weakness. Rather it is to stick to your beliefs and ethics and embrace them.
  24. It is all a lie. I know both addictions create this catastrophic lie that it can make you feel special, can relieve stress or help you become more acceptable to others. Who are you fooling?
  25. The next step would be drugs. How many other smokers and boozers do you know who have moved onto the next level, which is cocaine and heroin? This is the natural progression with such addictions. So I plan on quitting while I can.

What you need to remember is that there are so many addictions out there. Some are good and some are downright nasty. I do blame the whole advertising machine for churning out fabulous lies in order to sell their products. But, like in any democratic society, we have a right to choose our own heaven or hell. I have been up and down thanks to cigarettes and alcohol. All I can say is there are so many positive activities like indulging in sports, dancing, yoga, chess or hiking that can offer you so much more in terms of relieving stress, making new friends and feeling good about yourself. Any addiction is hard to fight. But for me, fighting an addiction such as this is choosing life.

Indulge & Exercise!

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I used to be a person who indulged a lot in food and drink. I have been thin (69 kgs) and morbidly obese (105 kgs). We are just bombarded by media on how we should look. Fact is things like genes and lifestyle play a huge role. Unlike most of these Hollywood stars we don’t have personal chefs and fitness instructors to help us out. What I want to say is that you should just live healthy. Make sure you eat more fruits and vegetables and drastically reduce sugar and processed goods. Just do some activity you enjoy and trust me, you will lose weight. This does not mean you should avoid eating out completely. Rather try and have a balance. For example, keep Saturday as a day you would splurge on what you desire. Plus when it comes to cutting down, do it slowly. For instance, I used to take 3 teaspoons of sugar in my coffee every morning. I reduced half a teaspoon every 3rd day until I just ended up having coffee with no sugar! Same theory applies to everything else. Would love to hear of any success stories out there. Please do comment if you have any helpful tips!

Look What I Bought!

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Walked into Majestic City today. Saw these blue suede shoes and just had to buy it. I bought the light brown version a month back. With my recent weight loss of 7kgs, I decided it’s time to get my mojo back. Despite being rather frugal, I thought it would do me some good to do some retail therapy. And guess what? It works!  :-)

A Letter By Lee Kuan Yew’s Daughter…

So my Dad forwarded an email to me. It is supposed to be a letter written by Lew Kuan Yew’s daughter. I thought I would share it in a post since it is something that I have been thinking about as well. I also believe her words will help you see things differently and change your outlook too.

Article written by Lee Wei Ling

In 2007, in an end-of-year message to the staff of the National Neuroscience Institute, I wrote: “Whilst boom time in the public sector is never as booming as in the private sector, let us not forget that boom time is eventually followed by slump time. Slump time in the public sector is always less painful compared to the private sector. Slump time has arrived with a bang. While I worry about the poorer Singaporeans who will be hit hard, perhaps this recession has come at an opportune time for many of us. It will give us an incentive to reconsider our priorities in life.Decades of the good life have made us soft. The wealthy especially, but also the middle class in Singapore, have had it so good for so long, what they once considered luxuries, they now think of as necessities.A mobile phone, for instance, is now a statement about who you are, not just a piece of equipment for communication. Hence many people buy the latest model though their existing mobile phones are still in perfect working order. A Mercedes-Benz is no longer adequate as a status symbol. For millionaires who wish to show the world they have taste, a Ferrari or a Porsche is deemed more appropriate.The same attitude influences the choice of attire and accessories. I still find it hard to believe that there are people carrying handbags that cost more than thrice the monthly income of a bus driver, and many more times that of the foreign worker labouring in the hot sun, risking his life to construct luxury condominiums he will never have a chance to live in.The media encourages and amplifies this ostentatious consumption. Perhaps it is good to encourage people to spend more because this will prevent the recession from getting worse. I am not an economist, but wasn’t that the root cause of the current crisis – Americans spending more than they could afford to? I am not a particularly spiritual person. I don’t believe in the supernatural and I don’t think I have a soul that will survive my death. But as I view the crass materialism around me, I am reminded of what my mother once told me: ‘Suffering and deprivation is good for the soul.’ My family is not poor, but we have been brought up to be frugal. My parents and I live in the same house that my paternal grandparents and their children moved into after World War II in 1945. It is a big house by today’s standards, but it is simple – in fact, almost to the point of being shabby. Those who see it for the first time are astonished that Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew’s home is so humble. But it is a comfortable house, a home we have got used to. Though it does look shabby compared to the new mansions on our street, we are not bothered by the comparison. Most of the world and much of Singapore will lament the economic downturn. We have been told to tighten our belts. There will undoubtedly be suffering, which we must try our best to ameliorate. But I personally think the hard times will hold a timely lesson for many Singaporeans, especially those born after 1970 who have never lived through difficult times. No matter how poor you are in Singapore , the authorities and social groups do try to ensure you have shelter and food. Nobody starves in Singapore. Many of those who are currently living in mansions and enjoying a luxurious lifestyle will probably still be able to do so, even if they might have to downgrade from wines costing $20,000 a bottle to $10,000 a bottle. They would hardly notice the difference. Being wealthy is not a sin. It cannot be in a capitalist market economy. Enjoying the fruits of one’s own labour is one’s prerogative and I have no right to chastise those who choose to live luxuriously. But if one is blinded by materialism, there would be no end to wanting and hankering. After the Ferrari, what next? An Aston Martin? After the Hermes Birkin handbag, what can one upgrade to? Neither an Aston Martin nor an Hermes Birkin can make us truly happy or contented. They are like dust, a fog obscuring the true meaning of life, and can be blown away in the twinkling of an eye. When the end approaches and we look back on our lives, will we regret the latest mobile phone or luxury car that we did not acquire? Or would we prefer to die at peace with ourselves, knowing that we have lived lives filled with love, friendship and goodwill, that we have helped some of our fellow voyagers along the way and that we have tried our best to leave this world a slightly better place than how we found it? We know which is the correct choice – and it is within our power to make that choice. In this new year, burdened as it is with the problems of the year that has just ended, let us again try to choose wisely. To a considerable degree, our happiness is within our own control, and we should not follow the herd blindly.”

Chocolate Vegan Ice Cream!

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This is such a simple dessert to make. Plus it is super healthy. Just had it and I want more! It’s very easy to make. Take two bananas that have been stripped off their skin. Keep it overnight in the freezer. Cut the the frozen bananas into small pieces and put it in a blender. Pour in around four drops of vanilla essence. Also put in around a tablespoon of cocoa powder. Pour in around half a mug of coconut milk and start blending. Keep adding very small amounts of coconut milk until your ice cream is semi solid. Once done and all the bananas have been mashed up proper, scoop it out into a dish and put it in the freezer for around twenty minutes or till it is a bit harder. I acted quite vague on the quantities since you could vary the ingredients depending on how you want it. For example, add more cocoa if you want it more “chocolatey”.

Pure Vitamin C!

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Just picked some of these local oranges from my garden. So tangy and tart! I adore fruits that are packed with Vitamin C. Besides the fact that it rejuvenates you it helps build collagen. Nature really is the fountain of youth!

Devilled Potato: want some?

This is a personal favorite of mine. It’s very simple to make. Basically you boil up some potatoes and skin them. You sprinkle chillie powder, roasted and raw curry powder and some salt. Putting in some dried Maldive fish will also work wonders when it comes to the overall flavor. On a hot pan, put a liberal dash of coconut oil and saute some garlic, onions, green chillies and curry leaves. When all this has browned, put in the potatoes and fry it until it all turns golden brown. Just like the Pol Sambol I made, this is another dish which will complement rice. Try it out and have fun! :-)