Chillaxing with a few buds at Cinnamon Grand after work. I treasure these moments. What you see is a Red Eye. Pretty, eh?
So here I am, sipping hot coffee and thinking – What do women want from their men? And I have the answer right here – I wish I knew.
Truth be told, there is no answer for this. Scores of men have been fiddling their thumbs for centuries in laboratories under the guidance of science and religion to figure out – What in God’s name does she want from me? All I can say is, I doubt even if women know what they want from their men. But I’ll tell you what, I think I’ve come close to figuring all of this out*. Face it, every individual woman will want something different and frankly, so will any man. But I’ve encapsulated 5 basic things, which I think, women want. So here goes.
1. She Wants Your Tongue. Apologies for the slightly sexual innuendo but, in my experience, women want her man to talk and talk till the cows come home. So talk to her. Talk all things that excite her. These things will excite you too. It could be about politics, food, dogs or even about the dear ole mother-in-law but do talk. Women need more attention than men and nothing gives them more attention that wrapping them up in words. Trust me.
2. She Wants Your Heart & Soul. Just the attention won’t do. She needs to know you will always be there for her. It could be the myriad of things from taking her to her mother-in-law’s place or remembering to buy her sanitary napkins on the way home. Basically, she wants to know that you love her and that her needs are met. What makes this all the more challenging is that you better know what her needs are. And you really can if you start practicing what I mentioned at No. 1 on this list.
3. She Wants You To Say “Yes”. Instead try and say “No” by saying “Yes”. So she wants to go for dinner to a fancy restaurant and you don’t. Whip up a romantic dinner resplendently shimmering in candlelight and, I assure you, she will love you more for it.
4. She Wants You To Be Her Dad. Say what you want about this but most of the women I have known want their men to be a replica of their father. But there are things that they never liked about their father as well. So it’s best to take on the good and do away with the bad stuff.
5. She Wants You To Be In Control. She may want to control you and your actions but she wants you to be in control of everything else. Whether it’s about the paying of bills, handling the domestics, sorting out the car insurance, fixing the air conditioner or planning that holiday to wherever, you better have it all sorted out.
Of course, most of what I have typed away here is said in serious zest. I know unions of any sort do have their good times and bad times. And while we have a propensity to always focus on the bad times, do make a serious EFFORT to remember the good times. Those are the memories that can save a union from dissolving into nothing but bitterness.
*Research has been conducted over a 30-year time period. The test subjects were mothers, wives, girlfriends, friends and also former bosses.
Sigh. At the rate Apple and its Android rivals are releasing devices, you would need to be robbing a spate of banks every month to afford them. But then the one central question we need to ask is – Why am I buying such a device in the first place? I bought a Samsung Galaxy Ace simply because my ancient Motorola L6 gave up its zest for life with a colourful burst of pixelized pixels. Yes, it was that ancient. I have used my Ace for 1.5 years now and was fully satisfied with it. The truth is, it proved to be a blessing in disguise.
You see, I landed an incredible job in social media. At present, I work for an awesome company called Loops Solutions. As a Social Media Manager, we need to monitor our brands and having a smartphone is a must. My Ace made all this simple. But then since it is a low-end offering by Samsung, there were many things that were left to be desired, like battery life, memory and features.
This period marked my addiction to the world of smartphones. I got involved in the ubiquitous Apple vs. Samsung battle. I became a hater and lover of all things Apple and Samsung. I wanted everything they put out. But there was always the question of money. So I set myself a list of prerequisites for the perfect device. They are as follows:
1. It should last at least 2.5 years.
2. It should be easy to upgrade.
3. It should fit my list of requirements. And what are those? Well, l am a heavy user of Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare, Hootsuite, Tweetdeck, Instagram, Kobo, Kindle, Google +, Google, Gmail, Gtalk, WordPress, Tumblr, YouTube and a myriad of other apps. Since I deal with images and adding effects to it, I needed whatever device I was going to buy to be versatile.
4. It should have a good battery life.
5. It should be durable and reliable.
6. It should have a good camera and have decent video functionality.
I will admit this – I am a complete noob. I have no problem admitting it and this is what helped me gather all the information I wanted in order to make that final purchase decision. I spent hours upon hours watching YouTube videos, reading reviews, talking to tech geeks and smartphone reviewers before I made that final decision. But what really made the difference is that opportunity to use a Note II and an iPad 2.
I travelled to Bali for my annual holiday and my Boss gave me his iPad 2 to use. I hated it at first but, I must admit, I fell in love with it. I loved how easy it was to use and that it hardly ever crashed. An office colleague upgraded it to iOS6 and it was buttery smooth. Reading, watching movies and social monitoring were a complete pleasure. The only drawback was the price factor. Apple supports their devices for a long period of time. Watching an iPad 2 run on iOS6 was just unbelievable. While there is a lot of hate between Samsung and Apple and their fans, the truth is that they both put out some amazing devices.
I won’t be dissing either brand since they both are exceptional. But what I will say is that if you are hunting for a device, list down your requirements and then see what devices suit those requirements. Thereafter, spend some quality time researching those devices. If you can use them for a set period of time, since there is nothing like using a device to know whether you are comfortable with it or not. As far as my requirements go, the Note II answered all my needs perfectly. Remember to keep an open mind when looking for something. You really can’t get too emotional with these things since the ultimate winner would be the brand.
Remember something else. The latest device will become redundant in a hurry, there are replacements every single year. This Note II, I am typing on, was released around 3 months back. Rumours of a Note III are already making the rounds. Expect it to be launched this year. But I digress. You probably want to know whether I am happy with my purchase. The answer is a resounding – Yes. It is, by far, the best device I have ever used. It has replaced 90% of my laptop and that is saying something.
All things considered, this does not mean I am a fan boy, rather someone whose requirments were met by the Note II. I hope this article is of some use to you and I hope my MO in choosing a device will be useful to you too.
By the way, that image is courtesy of my Note II. Whatever filter that has been added is via Instagram.
I just had dental surgery yesterday. I can’t remember seeing so much of blood. Ever. Out went my already traumatized root, which was crushed to smithereens with a plier. Funnily enough, my gums were numbed. How much? Well, my nose felt numb too. But I felt the pain. All of it. In went the fake tooth. Here I am guzzling painkillers. Want a tip? When a doctor or surgeon says there won’t be pain, they are usually lying. There is pain. Lots of it.
I really cannot remember when I first got on Facebook and Twitter. All I know is that it was an experience that was fruitful and annoying. I made a great deal of friends and met a few freaks as well. For sure, there are many pros and cons when it comes to social media. But, I guess, it depends on your intentions.
For some it is a medium to stay in touch with their school friends, office mates and family. For others it is to get to know new people, find love or interact in order to find a new job. There is also a dark side to the whole thing and it takes the form of bullying or sexual harrassment.
Yet with the myriad of privacy settings available, it is possible to remain private to a certain degree. My main aim in going online was to change my lifestyle from one that was unhealthy to one that was healthy. You need a positive circle of friends for that. I have achieved this. I also do genuinely like interacting with people and making friends.
Since my profession is also rooted in social media, I have no choice but to learn more and ‘be social’. I do enjoy this. Going social has helped me interact with incredible individuals who are celebs, like, for instance, Drew Canole, Troy Casey and Ido Portal. This interaction has helped me turn a new chapter in my life.
There have also been down sides to being social as well. For example, you do add or follow people who ‘have issues’. And before you know it, their issues become your issues. So tread with caution, or add or follow with caution. Appearances are everything in life and this is very true when it comes to the World Wide Web too. People are never what they seem, so be careful.
All in all, remember that social media has made the world smaller and erased the physical boundaries that exist between us all. I have never travelled to America or Bulgaria but I am fortunate to have friends in both nations now. I have learned a lot and changed a lot; for the better.
I finally got some time to sit down and think about how 2012 and the beginning of 2013 has panned out. You see, I used to maintain a diary where I wrote down my daily experiences. But then I started a blog and it became my personal diary but open to the public.
I think it is vital we write down our experiences in life. It is important that we capture what we feel and do through words and images, since it is these memories that will serve us as a reminder of the life we once had when we are old and the machinery of the mind starts to fade. It is a hard task but thanks to social mediums like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Flickr, Pinterest, YouTube and WordPress, we have our lives recorded.
My 2012 was amazing to say the least. I was fortunate enough to visit Bali for the second time in my life. I have had the opportunity to work for an incredible company called Loops where my Boss is simply the most amazing individual I have met. Most of my colleagues have become close friends and I have had the privilege of being kind and generous to them knowing that it has made a difference in their lives.
While our long standing domestic left our home due to a personal issue that had to do with a man she fell in love with, she is back again. The image you see in this post is her work. Yum it was. While I have been cooking and cleaning since the age of 18, I can safely say that her presence will offer me more time to pursue some of my New Year resolutions. I will be sharing a post on this soon and I hope it will inspire you to take up some pursuits as well.
The year 2012 will also be known for a drastic drop in weight where I now feel healthy and fit. I want to continue this trend. This change in mindset where I focus on my health has helped me uplift my mood, take on more tasks at work and home, plus change my perspective on life. I am now slow to anger and have a spirit of gratitude for everything in my life. I am also aware that nothing in life comes easy, while I knew this all along, the past has helped me realize it even more.
I may have met many people, some of who are in line with my value system, yet I have realized behind certain smiles and kindly facades there are ulterior motives that are quite dark. I take pride in the fact that I can read people well but despite this, I am still somewhat disturbed by their acts. It is through this that I have realized what I have known all along, which is that one can only rely on oneself. Independence is key to a happy life.
With that pearl of wisdom, here is another – Loneliness can be a terrible thing. While I am thrilled with my independence and my life at present, I know time is running out. While I do not believe in first love, I do know for a relationship and marriage to work being the best of friends is absolutely key. I think I have met the right woman who could be my partner in life. The year 2013 will help us decide this.
All in all, 2012 was excellent. The start of 2013 was equally brilliant. At this present time, I have no complaints per se. I know happiness is a state of mind and, in most cases, a choice. I hope that last sentiment rings true for you as well. Happy 2013.